From: Mark C.
Subject: COMMENTS: Email from a "nice guy" to Heartless bitches
First of all, I think your sight has an interesting perspective. I am a male myself and I would imagine that you would call me a "nice guy."
I have to admit that I'm bad with women in many of the ways that you discuss. For example, I really can't tell very well whether a girl likes me or doesn't. However, sometimes girls do lead on guys, because it gives them a boost to their ego. There was one girl who would flirt with me but would not continue a conversation with me for example. She wouldn't even respond when I talked to her. Then, minutes later, she and her friend would laugh. She never straight out rejected me, but just led me on. It is very confusing.
But she was very cordial with this other guy who's a bit bigger, more muscular, and better looking than me (hey, I'm being objective).
This other time, admittedly I acted like an idiot with a girl. I went to a restaurant with her and was -as you would say- came on a bit too strong, too soon. But, instead of telling me that she wasn't interested (which I would have been OK with, and always have been) at the restaurant, or one on one, she just told this other guy what happened and they laughed at me and treated me like garbage from then on. Even when I just stopped interacting with them, she would sort of gossip about me behind my back.
Basically, I have never, ever had a good experience with women. I have become paranoid about women, to be honest, and I have begun to think that they are always screwing with me. I don't have any confidence around women because I have never had good results with them.
In the last year or so, I have become misogynistic. I have really almost started to hate women. I just feel like they are always judging me. I always either come on "too strong" or "not strong enough." Why can't I come on to a girl when I feel like it, for a change? You talk about how "nice guys" should do what he wants more, not what the girl wants, and then you lay down a laundry list of rules that guys have to follow.
Last, believe me, I don't want to be a loser. But the other thing about it is - if I was 6'4", 215 lbs, and damn good looking, would you give half a fuck what my personality was? Conversely, if you see some 5'5" guy or something, he could be the biggest saint on the planet and you wouldn't give a rat's ass. Let's not kid anyone there. It's like me saying some girl was too "nice" or a "bitch" when in reality I just didn't like the way she looked. At least I'd be fucking honest about why I didn't like her, unlike some of you (in some situations). By the way, I am in between - about 6'0" and 185 lbs. And I don't "play" with girls that I don't really like, unlike many girls do with guys.
I had a good personality, a genuinely nice personality BEFORE I started to try to get to know women in more than a platonic way.
Really I am lost and frustrated and it is sad but I am just doing the best that I can.
People say I have high standards, but I don't think so. I just want a girl with good morals that looks OK. Not mean, not cruel, not a liar. Unfortunately, I haven't found any yet.
I'd be interested to hear your thoughts.