Jan 30, 2006
(Dear Auntie Dote),
I have had a few bad relationships, but the last one took the cake. I
thought I had met Mr. Wonderful. The first month seemed just fine. He came on
like Mr. Businessman, that has money and a couple of houses. He was divorced and
he was treating me well during the first month. Although he came strong with
dreams for both of us, I did not mind, becuase I did find him rather
He went on and on about how he thinks he loves me within the first 3 weeks,
and how he wanted to have a baby with me. He came into my family situations real
quick. Things happened fast.
After the first month things started changing. He was suddenly in
financial trouble due to some business ventures,
and becuase he was so depressed and stressed out I decided to lend him some
money, 4000 dollars to be exact.
He seemed to need it in order to do something with his
He said he would give it back in 8-10 days and was really happy that I lent
him the money.
10 days passed,and so did several months, and finally I asked him for the
He said he will try to get it, but he is in a real bad situation right now
and the goverment has seized all his bank accounts, and that he will be
appearing in court in 1 month.
After the court appearance, everything would be fine. His accounts would be
released and he would pay me back.
Meanwhile during that time, he told me he sold his house, and that he was
staying at his cousins appartment for a while, until the court issues would be
cleared . I found out he had been lying to me.
He was living with his ex wife.
When I confronted him, he denied it, and when I told him that I have the
address (because his ex found my number and called me to tell me he is living
there), he had no choice but to adimit it. He said he wanted to tell me, but he
did not know how to say it. He claimed he is in a bad financial situation and he
is just staying there temporarily, and also it is easy to see his son. He said
he has no relations with his ex, that he never loved her, and married her
because she got pregnant. She says otherwise.
When I found all this out, I offered him to come and stay with me if he
needs a place to stay,
just to see if he would, and he did not.
He said it is easier for him to be downtown, cause he has stuff to do and
people to meet during the day. I do not live far from downtown by the
He kept claiming that everything will change after the court date. At this
point I was suspicious,
I asked if I could go to court with him, (just to see if there was ever a
business and a scheduled court appearance). He accepted, except when the court
date came, he changed it on me and told me he already went yesterday, and that
he did not have time to call me becuase he mixed up the dates and he was
stressed out about the situation.
I was furious, but kept playing along.
He said it was not over and they will issue another court date to finish
this case. He said he did not know when the date would be, and that his lawyer
would notify him of the next date. His accounts were still
Meanwhile he kept saying, after all this is over, he wants to make me
happy, and that I will get my money back. He want his life with me, and
that we will have a baby and be happy together. During this time, he kept asking
me for more money.
Once he asked me for 3000 dollars to pay his lawyer. Of course by now I was
wise. I was not going to give anymore money to a guy that did not pay back the
first loan. I claimed that I don't have much money, that I live alone and I have
too many expeneses.
He asked me to pull it out of my credit card. I said I
A few weeks later he asked me to give him 10,000 dollars, that he would
play the 4-EX (foreign exchange) and that if I give him 10 grand, he would
return a total or 17,000 to me in 6 months. Of course I did not give
He kept saying that I am his only hope right now,
and that if I help him, I would see many things from
Of course I had my guard up and found every excuse I could not to give it
In between all this, he kept asking me for 100 dollars here and there for
little things. Sometimes I would give it to him because I felt bad for
On top of that after the first month of dating, he had no money and I was
paying almost everything, including an outing with his good friend that came
here from overseas. That outing cost me 500 >>>
It got to a point where I could not take this
He was even lying about stupid things, I caught him various
I think I was not performing well at work and got lost my job becuase
of him and all the stress he caused me.
When I lost my job, a month ago, he told me that it is just a job and that
I would find something else. After losing my job, he asked for 10 grand again,
saying that we now can make money in the 4EX. How dare he ask me for money after
I lost my job????
I for my 4 grand back after I lost my job, that I needed it and he said he
will try, but he did not get it. He tells me now that his court date is Jan. 18
and after that day I will get all my money back and more for being such a nice
and caring woman.
I finally worked out enough nerve to tell him that I can't do this anymore,
and that he should return my money in a week or I will take other measures to
get my money. It was hard, because besides what I have writtten above, there
were many good times and good moments.
He called me today saying that he can't get the money, but after Jan. 18 he
will have it all. He claims he got a job and that he will try to pay me back
slowly in the meantime.
I asked him for court documents to prove to me that he is due to appear in
court on Jan. 18 or else I will not wait for the money another 2 months.
He said that he will call his lawyer tomorrow and that he will meet me and
show me the docs.
Also he said that he loves me and the he will show me good things, and that
he wants to do everything to make me happy.
He says he never would take advantage of me, a woman that helped me and
that he is not an asshole or a bad person.
My question is, what do you think of this?
I don't know what to believe anymore, I think he is taking me for a
and sometimes I just think he is in a bad situation and I really feel bad
Besides all of the above, I have given him a laptop as a
His wife claims he is a gambler
and that he sold the laptop. He says he gave it to his son, and that he is
not a gambler, and that his ex-wife is nuts and that she is trying to ruin his
But it is funny... I went to the casino with him one night and even the
coffe boys knew him, and yes I forgot to mention he asked me to pull out 1000
dollars so we could gamble, becuase he felt lucky..... of course I did