Despite our best efforts to dissuade you, many of you have still decided to write to us with your problems, complaints and crises of the moment. We don't have a trained therapist on staff, and this isn't "Dear F*ckin' Abbey", but we DO have Bonnie, who has graciously volunteered her time and heartless perspectives in order to minister to (or macerate) the misguided, with "Dear Fuckin' Bon..."

July 22, 2001

Dear Heartless-Bitches' Queen,

I am an 18 year old guy who came across your site [heartless-bitches.com] via viewing another website. I entered the mainpage and examined it for a bit. I read just the front page...and I must say that I truly do not understand why women who perceive this world and life the way you do perceive it that way.

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems as though your members are a group of extreme pessimist-feminists. In essence, "man-haters".

You're wrong. You're remarkably wrong. You're completely wrong. The men who write that must think that only men are sexist, manipulative, controlling, stupid and/or stereotypical. Anyone with a brain who reads our site can see that we mock males AND females who show those traits.

You have an animated GIF of a heart being chopped with an axe on the frontpage of your site. Nice touch. What on Earth would provoke you to think in such a way? Everything it seems, well I take that back, MOST of everything that can be seen on the frontpage of the site is negative. It makes me really wonder just what COULD reside in the members-only sections. Truly however, I don't think I want to know.

You've got that right. You *don't* want to know. Your tire would be flat moments after arriving. You have so classically missed the point and content of the site that I guess we can only sit back and wait for the stereotypical manipulations of "be nice or you aren't attractive", "do things the way I think you should or you're hateful", and "if you speak out against stupidity you're spreading tension between the genders".

You may consider this email "whining", as it appears that you consider everything that a man has to say to you as "whining". It is not. Rather, it is an observation and an INQUIRY as to why you guys think and behave the way you do. Though I do not understand it, it is OK. I don't understand women totally anyways (what man does?). However your group seems to be of a different breed of Woman. What has hardened your souls so? I am interested....

*coughing gently*. Have you any idea how threatened you sound?

Men who are genuinely pleasant and confident understand women, or at least understand that women are individual people. (Why do I have to explain this to so many men who write to tell us we hate them?) They don't think that us NOT putting up with manipulation and bullying means that our souls are all hard. Real men (and women) looooove Heartless Bitches.

I am not one of those "sappy Nice Guys (tm)" that people always refer to. I am a nice guy. However I'm not a "Nice Guy". I am confident in who I am, my looks, my sexuality, my abilities, and the way I interact with your sex. I know I have what it takes. I am also smart and rational/logical. However even someone like myself has a hard time weighing your very strong *negative* opinions, much less understanding them.

("Your sex"?) Very telling that you see women as so "other".

We've found that nice guys who are GENUINELY confident in their looks, sexuality, abilities, and interactions actually understand the point of the site and don't write to us telling us how "hateful" we are OR "inquiring" as to what "made us this way". Some of them are SO evolved they actually even recognize that not all Heartless Bitches are women, but that we ARE all *PEOPLE*, and that we bash stereotypes and stupidity rather than a particular gender. But you disliked *that* so much you chose to ignore it, or maybe you're so thick you really didn't get it. (Pick one.)

(STEREOTYPE ALERT---Incoming...)

It seems to me, and I would assume to many others also, that you guys are a bunch of gals that've been hurt by men too many times, perhaps you're the "ugly girls" who want to lash out...but I'm not assuming anything.

(*snort*. "I'm saying this but I'm saying that I'm not saying this." Way to go.)

If this is the case, then why would you want to make a site about pain? Why not try to pinpoint the problem. Some guys are wicked jerks, what can I say? Some women are HeartLess Bitches. Is there a difference between the two? I think not. We dislike bitter women like you just the same way that you have hatred for guys who like Big Tits, ghetto booty, and wanna sip martinis in Cancun with Claudia Schiffer; guys who objectify women and view them like I view a prime cut of New York Sirloin.

This isn't a site about pain as much as a site designed to give pain to those who clutch the above type stereotypes protectively.

What is really interesting here is that you bash some of the same stereotypes WE do above, yet call US "hateful" for saying similar things, and misuse "Heartless Bitches" to mean the kind of women who won't take responsibility and who are users or losers. We bash THAT type of woman too, Einstein. **Read** the site. Or at least be honest about what you related to that pissed you off.

What I am saying is why not work for the positive? This site just breeds hate and tension between the sexes, at an exponential rate. On the flip side, sites like this by men do also the same thing (though I think fewer of them exist). In this day and age that is not what we need. We need less hate, and more love. Simple, but the absolute truth.

How is bashing a loser, a user, or a moron somehow diametrically opposite of "love"? Seems to me that loving a healthy equal partner goes hand in hand with not putting up with this type of jerk . .. unless *you* want WOMEN to put up with the kind of manipulative male that, say, you are. Or could it also be that you want women to accept and act and look certain ways; and not speak up when people like you tell us that we must be

"a bunch of gals that've been hurt by men too many times, perhaps you're the "ugly girls"

I think our recognition of manipulation breeds YOUR tension. I think our disparaging the type of manipulation that you're using in this very letter makes you hate that we see it so clearly.

As for posting this in all it's, oh what was it, "grammatically challenged, poorly-spelled glory", please feel free to do so. I don't think there are more than maybe two grammatical / spelling errors in this, because I don't happen to be one of those "dumb guys" you so like to rag on. In fact, feel free to; I would encourage it. And send all responses/hate mail to [email deleted because you're spreading hate] (my real email address - I am writing this at my brother's house).

(That's what they all say).

I'm willing to bet that the manipulation rants as well as the nice guy rants are the ones that really toasted your almonds, weren't they?

To sum up, I would like to say that I am not trying to change either you, the president, or your members' opinions or ideas, no matter how

(For some reason, I found this comment hysterically funny. You aren't trying to change the president? Damn. I'm American, I'd love to change the president. As for changing HBI, either the Supreme Bitch or anyone else, since we *really* didn't need that reassurance, it was a beautiful example of manipulation. Thanks for your timelessly classic examples from the manipulation files... ever boring and ever ineffectual with HBs everywhere.)

irrational they seem to me. Rather I am writing as more of an inquiry to your philosophy(s). If this letter is shot down, and you give me a whole and hearty "Fuck Off"....that's OK. I'm half-expecting it anyways. But just know that I don't give a flying fuck, because "Ain't nobody gonna hold me down" :)

Well, that's the one thing I will try for you. "Fuck off".

...Nah, I can't really get much heart in it.

bon

Good day.

Sincerely,
Christopher John [Genitals]