May 1, 2003
I need some heartless bitch advice. I'm taking a biochemistry lab, and my lab partner is sort of trying to take advantage of me. He does not read the labs before coming to class. He shows up late, and while our instructor is talking, asks me if i understand whats going on, interrupting my focus on the lecture. He whispers things like "so, what are we doing to day?". I say to him, "Did you read the lab?" and he replies, "heh, naw, i had like, no time." Sometimes i explain it to him, or i say, "Well read it over, i'm still trying to get a clear picture, myself". I'll come in with the previous week's calculations done, and he'll be like 'oh! let me see that real fast. I'll just copy this down." He uses the excuse that we have to share data, because we're partners.
In that particular instance, i told him "only copy down the stuff we recorded last week. I am not sure if these calculations are right. And it makes it easier to write the lab report if you work the calculations yourself anyway." I suppose that worked for the time being, but i can't see that in the future he will suddenly decide to stay on track and be prepared. And i'd say it wasn't my problem, but it is. The fact that he doesn't know whats going on causes him to screw up his part of the experiment, giving us lowsy data and requiring endless hours of backtracking to see what went wrong so we can still get a decent grade on the final report by explaining the error.
My question is, am i handling this incorrectly? I know he's taking a ridiculously large number of credit hours this semester, and that he probably really doesn't have time to read. And i know it isn't my problem or my duty to help him because he CHOSE to take so many credit hours. And my explanation for why he shouldn't copy my calculations sounded to me like some cover-up...since i think i really wanted to say "Do it yourself! i spent my whole sunday afternoon working those out and you think you can just copy it?" I thought that in our attempt to be adults, we were beyond this sort of "hey smart kid, can i copy your homework" bullshit. I guess i'm naive.
I'm getting kind of tired of dancing around this. Is there some heartless bitch way of handling this so that this guy knows not to ask me to do his thinking for him?
Coincidentally, he happens to be tall, good-looking, outgoing, and funny, and has a tendency to be distracted by the desire to flirt with the girls at the bench next to us.