May 26, 2002
Dear Fuckin' Bon:
alright, before I say more I'll just admit that my
attractiveness to women is zip, zero, nada, null and
zilch. as far as they're concerned my penis is
what's the deal? I'm not a loser in every way. I've
got a decent face and a muscular build, not in
incredible shape but not fat and generally muscular.
On the other hand I am bald and a mere 5'9", so that's
a big problem for many women. I don't dress fantastic
but I don't dress that bad - generally clean and new
clothes. As far as I can tell I am smart. I am
verbal. I am funny and articulate. I can say
interesting things about books and music and movies
and math. I am successful in my career. I can hold
a conversation and can write.
But I am a nice guy. A wimp. A doormat. I stutter.
I look down. I let people walk on me. It's just the
truth and I'm not gonna pretend otherwise. This is a
fatal flaw. The bitches ain't gonna forgive me for
So what to do? Pretend to be a prick? Uh, then I
take crap for being a womanizer type, and I really
don't have the technique to pull off that act, and
anyway I am who I am. The standard advice on how to
pick up girls is to be yourself. But my particular
self is not fuckable. So I can either blow it by
being myself or blow it by not being myself.
I haven't had sex in a long time, and it's not for
lack of trying. I do work on this problem to the best
of my ability. I improved my clothes. I learned how
to hold a conversation with a woman (this is a
learnable skill!). I force myself to ask women out,
to approach them and make the first move. That's hard
as hell but it's unavoidable.
I don't need to point out the unfairness of all this
to other beta males. The women just have to sit in a
public place to be approached and spread their legs to
get laid. They can be stupid and psychotic, and
pretty often are, and it doesn't make them unfuckable.
They can even be ugly and get laid. A hole's a hole
How come women can be ugly and get laid? Because most
women cluster around the same few men. The impact of
the double standard - that men who fuck around a lot
are studs while comparable women are sluts - is that
women tend to fuck men who are good at picking up
women. Right? There's a loose parity in numbers
between men and women. There are a limited number of
couplings to be had between men and women. Women tend
to have fewer sexual partners, and since they strongly
prefer the most alpha males (dropping euphemisms,
alpha males are the ones who are good at picking up
women) the majority of available sex with females is
going to a few men. All the other men have to compete
for is those few women that no alpha males will fuck.
In other words women anywhere near the center of the
bell curve (the majority) are fucking a few men way up
the bell curve (the minority) while men anywhere the
center of the bell curve are competing for a few women
down near the bottom of the bell curve. This
relationship applies at every point in the bell curve,
so that men down near the bottom of the bell curve
don't have assortative equals - we just fall off the
edge of the equation. We can't trade down because our
female equals have traded up way past us, and their
inferiors have traded up not that far past us, and
their somewhat inferiors have traded up just past us.
Fuckable men at every point in the bell curve are
absorbing more than their share of women. The dropoff
point for unfuckable men is much higher than the
dropoff point for unfuckable women.
What is it that we're going without? Sex? Love? Sex
matters, sure. Jesus, I am incredibly horny and have
no hope of doing anything about it. But the part that
I really can't stand living without is. not love
exactly. affection, company, being touched and
touching. I have vivid fantasies of emotionally
charged physical contact, kissing even, if I can get
the image detailed and solid enough.
That stuff really matters. A love life relaxes you,
gives you personal support, lets you recharge, gives
you the feeling that life is not completely
meaningless. No love life makes you hard, tense,
bitter. It does it to me and I can see that it does
it to my similarly unfuckable friends. Statistically
we live shorter lives and make less money. We drink.
What do us unfuckables do for sex? Most use the sex
industry fairly heavily - porn, strip joints and
prostitutes. I myself masturbate constantly. It's
not so bad. I'm used to this life and am willing to
give myself a really dedicated high quality jerkoff
session from time to time. If you're enough of a
loser that's as good as sex can get. There are no
It doesn't help that women are cruel. They don't have
empathy for us pityfuck types. They think we should
just change. Just be someone else. They think that
we don't have a right to be as complex as they are.
They can't help their absofuckinglute hate of losers.
They can't help their stone cold hearts. They can't
help enjoying the ego boost of having a loser guy to
feel superior to.
I could go on but there's no point. This is a rant,
not an essay. My message to my brother losers: fuck
the bitches over any chance you get. My message to
the bitches: fuck yourselves. Anything bad that ever
happened to you you deserved. Fuck yourselves, fuck
yourselves, fuck yourselves.