September 09, 2001
About six months ago I asked out this person who I was in love with. His reply was not definite, but simply that he felt he did not have the time to give to a relationship at the moment. Then, about three months later, he asked if the offer I had made him still held, to which I replied in the affirmative, after which I then assumed we were going out. However, I then did not see him for three days and finally I rang him to ask what was going on. His reply was that he was not thinking straight and that he had to focus on his work etc. and that he felt that he just didn't have the time because of other pressures. However, about a month ago, it also emerged that had felt let down by people in the past and was not given to trusting people easily, despite the fact that I assured him that I loved him and would wait for as long as it took. He had shut himself up in his own little world (albeit a pleasant one) and as a result of which, he felt reluctant to try anything new. I'm not entirely sure what his feelings for me are, but he says that he feels fairly 'sexless' at the moment.
This was all a few weeks ago, and as I have left the place where we both met, the chances of seeing him again are slimmer. He assures me that we are friends and that he wants to keep in touch (although he simply doesn't know when he will feel able to enter into a relationship with anyone) but it is usually me that initiates any communication. I don't know whether I should wait until he gets in contact or until he changes his mind, or whether what I need to do is to reassure him further that he can trust me and that I won't go running after anyone else. What do you suggest?
Yours, Zelda P.