July 15, 2006
Thereís a little boy at work who
appears to have a rather big crush on me.
Well, heís not so little - heís about 6í2" and 220 lbs and
probably around 24.† He really is a
sweet kid and handsome, well built and all the rest of it - and quite full of
himself, in the way that young men often are.†
He flirts with the secretaries in the office and has broken at least one
heart in the process - to the point where I sat him down and had a talk with
him about it.
The young lady in question -
letís call her Jackie -- is just out of a relationship and heís been dogging on
her (just because he can, I suspect).†
Heís an outrageous flirt and although she says she knows better, she
fell for it hook, line and sinker.† To
the point where other people began asking him when he was going to ask her
out.† The poor girl was in agony and
blushed furiously whenever he was around.
Turns out that the young man in
question has a girlfriend.† When I sat
him down in my office to cross-examine him on the subject, it turns out that
she wasnít "exactly" a girlfriend.† As
he put it, theirs was a "relationship of convenience".
"Oh I get it", I said. "You call
her up after a night out with the boys for a booty call, she thinks the two of
you are going out and she has no idea what youíre up to otherwise."† He at least had the good grace to look a bit
sheepish.† For a moment.
"She knows the score", he
"Rubbish", I replied, staring him
He dropped his gaze
instantly.† "Iím not a dog", he said
defensively.† Certainly not when faced
with an alpha female, I thought with an inner smile.
"No, not yet.† Youíre still a puppy.† But youíre getting there.† Youíve got poor Jackie all tied up in knots
and you know it. You have absolutely no intention of asking her out, do you?"
"No - I never said I did."
"Then stop playing with her - it
"What - I canít be friendly?"
"You know damn well you arenít
being "friendly" to her - youíre just seeing if you can pull her.† You canít help yourself - I know youíre not
trying to be a jerk, but you have to be more aware of who you can play with and
how theyíre liable to take it."
Suitably chastised, he sat in my
office for a moment and looked around.
A word about my office.
Full of armour and other implements
of war, itís a home away from home.†
Since my nickname is Morticia (I always wear black - it hides the cat
fur), you can imagine the decorating scheme.†
Iíve never been a huge fan of sunlight - apart from the lawyer clichťs,
these meds make me very photosensitive - so the lighting is extremely subdued.
He looked at my artwork -- the
coronation portrait of Elizabeth I, Paul Delarocheís The Execution of Lady Jane
Grey (mostly because I feel like Iím in for the same treatment), a Celtic raven
(to honour the Morrigan), my sword, etc. and looked back at me.† And, in pride of place, my Elizabeth I
quotations: "I will have here but one mistress and no master", "I will never be
by violence constrained to do anything" and "My Lords, do whatever you wish. As for me, I shall do no otherwise than
"Wow - youíre really dark, arenít
Oh God, I thought.† Not another one.† I wearily took a stab at the predictable.
"You like Angelina Jolie movies,
"Oh man, yeah - sheís hot."
"Go away now.† Iíve got work to do.† And behave yourself."
Itís always the macho ones, isnít
Over the course of the next week,
I couldnít shake him.† Each time I
turned around in court, there he was.†
He found excuses to visit my office.†
He just happened to be at the coffee shop every time I stopped by. He
started coming in at the crack of dawn.†
He was everywhere.† He
told me I was a great lawyer.† He told
me I was "really something".† He told me
I looked "awesome" in my black leather skirt.†
He complimented me on my hair, my eyes, my vocabulary, my legal
arguments and my penmanship.† He told me
that he couldnít believe that I didnít have a boyfriend.† (My response: "Why should I have a
boyfriend?† I didnít do anything
It was kind of amusing.† Then it got complicated.
One afternoon, I was working on
written submissions when he came in and plopped himself uninvited into a
chair.† The phone rang immediately.† It was Jackie.
"Donít say itís me", she
said.† "But youíre not moving in on my
territory, are you?"
Oh dear.† I shooed him away, and then took her out for
"Heís a dog, sweetie, and not
worthy of your attention.† Heís only
playing and heíd only end up hurting you.†
Steer well clear."
"Youíre not interested in him,
are you?" she asked, trying but not quite managing to keep the note of anxiety
out of her voice.
"Oh God, no", I reassured
her.† "Heís just talking to me about
work stuff" I lied.† "He thinks of me as
a big sister - nothing more.† And heís
hardly my type."
I donít know whether or not she
believed me, though my lack of interest was plain enough.
Luckily, his rotation changes
next week, heíll be in a different office and weíll see no more of him for
about 6 months.† This will give the
bruises on Jackieís heart time to heal because I think he hurt her more than
sheís showing.† To be fair to him, I
donít think he intended to be cruel.
As for the boy himself, Iím sure
heíll get over it.
But itís amazing how a bit of
black leather and a take no prisoners attitude will prompt ridiculous ideas in
the minds of all manner of men and boys.
Till next time.