When I first encountered the HBI site back in March, I decided that from
now on, I was only going to date Heartless Bitches. Unfortunately, true
Heartless Bitches are a lot harder to find than I thought; most of the
women I've found have been "nice girls"; nothing wrong with that, but
definitely not what I wanted.
Fortunately, I've found that there are some Heartless Bitches out there
for me (for now, at least). And I couldn't be happier about it.
Why do I date Heartless Bitches? There are lots of reasons, but here are
some of them.
First of all, I like a challenge. Don't get me wrong: I'm not out to try
to "break her" or make a Heartless Bitch change. No, it's because
Heartless Bitches make me think, they make me plan, they make me
re-consider, and they have no problem telling me when I'm wrong or when
I've made a mistake (and, fortunately, they don't -- usually -- get
defensive if I do the same to them). I'm not ashamed to say some of the
Heartless Bitches that I've met and dated are more intelligent than I am
or more experienced than I am; I like to learn, I like to be challenged, I
like to grow. Heartless Bitches do more of that for me than any of the
nice girls I've ever dated.
Second, I know exactly where I stand with a Heartless Bitch. Heartless
Bitches don't play mind games. They don't fuck with my head. If I've
pissed her off, a Heartless Bitch will tell me exactly what I've done
wrong. And if I've made her happy, she has no problem with letting me know
that, too. This just comes down to the fact that I'm basically lazy, and
don't like spending the time or energy to try to read minds or play
guessing games. Only a Heartless Bitch will be that honest with you. More
importantly, though, the lines of communication and responsibility become
two-way instead of one or the other of us having to do all of the work;
questions like, "Oh, God, what have I done to piss her off this time" or
"He never talks to me" simply don't have to be asked anymore. What a
great change of pace!
Third, Heartless Bitches are just a hell of a lot of fun to be around. The
ones that I have been fortunate enough to meet have great, sometimes
raunchy senses of humor, and they makes me laugh hysterically. What's the
point of dating someone, after all, if you're not having fun doing it?
Fourth, the sex is great. There are no inhibitions with a Heartless Bitch.
They know what they like and don't like, and won't lie about it. Trust
me, sex with a communicative partner is a lot better than sex with someone
who says nothing more, "Whatever you like, makes no difference to me."
Oh, and have I mentioned the lack of head games? Why are the nice girls so
intent on hiding how they feel and making me guess about it? A Heartless
Bitch will never say, "If you really loved me, you'd know why I was
upset." Instead, she'll say, "I'm upset because you pissed me off!" So
refreshing and honest, and when we haven't wasted time playing mind games,
it's a lot easier to solve problems, and the relationship grows better
Nice girls are just as boring to men as nice guys are to women. Nice girls
are emotional manipulators, vapid, weak, and boring. They might be
intelligent, but they feel they have to hide their intelligence in order
to "get a guy", so you'll never have a decent conversation with them.
I've done my time with the nice girls, and I've been bored and irritated
out of my skull by them. I'd rather have permanent bachelor-hood than a
marriage to a whiny, manipulating, vacuous "nice girl"; and I'd much
rather be in a relationship with someone who's going to constantly
challenge me, be up-front with me, fight with me, love me honestly, laugh
with me, and talk intelligently with me.
I'm puzzled by the men who refuse to date Heartless Bitches. They have no
idea what they're missing out on. Dating a Heartless Bitch is not always
easy, it's not the continual ego-stroking you might get with a Nice Girl,
and it's frequently very frustrating... But it's a hell of a lot more
interesting and rewarding and challenging. I just hope that the Heartless
Bitches in my life never stop being that way.
(Sick to death of the nice girls, and happy to know that there are
Heartless Bitches in the world)